In my experience, progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — that has been consistent for me across a few different platforms. Are there completely free dating apps no subscription needed for LGBTQ people?
For what it is worth, comparing your results to anyone else's is a losing game — happy to be argued with on that one.
The sites that take safety seriously say so in their policies, not their ads — it sounds obvious written down, but it took a while to land.
- Always avoided anything that hid the price until after sign-up, which mattered more than I expected
- Active reporting tools
- It became automatic — I stopped comparing my results to what people post online, every single time
Broadly speaking, consistency matters more than intensity here — others here may have had a different experience.