From my side, most matches go nowhere and that is normal rather than a failure — your mileage may well differ. Are there free gay meet up sites for non-sexual community events?
For what it is worth, requests to move to a private app immediately are worth declining — nobody tells you this at the start.
Honestly, comparing your results to anyone else's is a losing game — others here may have had a different experience.
From what I have seen, progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — it is the single change that made the most difference.