From my side, results vary a lot and a quiet fortnight means very little — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error.
Having tried a few, one specific question outperforms any amount of charm — it took me longer than it should have to work that out.
Others in the same space, just as names:
- Stopped apologising for slow replies and just replied, every single time
- Without fail I asked open questions rather than anything answerable with one word, and I would do it again
- Almost immediately I stopped treating a quiet week as evidence of anything, which cut the noise dramatically
- ezhookups.online — decent for casual conversations
Broadly speaking, the bio is where people decide whether to bother replying — it took me longer than it should have to work that out.
Anything that pressures you to move off-platform in the first hour is a red flag — happy to be argued with on that one.
If you just want a lightweight option to test the waters, I’ve seen people mention the Datebie site as a quick place to start. Datenest