For what it is worth, comparing your results to anyone else's is a losing game — happy to be argued with on that one. How can I set up an anonymous adult chat using Tor? Honestly, a month is about the minimum before judging any platform — that has been consistent for me across a few different platforms.
From my side, pressure of any kind, however polite, is the thing to watch for — it sounds obvious written down, but it took a while to land.
Most matches go nowhere and that is normal rather than a failure — small thing, but it adds up.