Spent way too long learning this the hard way, so hopefully it saves you some time:
The people who seem to have the most success are specific about what they want, patient with the process, and keep opening messages short and question-based.
What actually helped:
- Read Reddit reviews of any paid platform before spending money
- Always confirmed identity through video call before any in-person meeting
- Used a dedicated email address for all dating app signups
- Turned off auto-renewal on any free trials immediately after signing up
- Updated profile photos regularly to stay visible in feeds
Also hearing
datingfly.online come up positively in a few other places — might be worth looking into.