Honestly, patience is genuinely the differentiator, dull as that sounds — worth testing yourself rather than taking my word for it. Is there a no games dating site that strictly enforces behavioral rules?
From my side, taking a break when it starts to feel like admin is sensible — it is not complicated, it is just easy to skip.
In my experience, the first message should give them something to work with — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error.
- Every time I used a nickname rather than my full name for the first few weeks, and I still do it now
- Is moderation active?
- One habit that stuck: I gave each platform a fair month before judging it, which mattered more than I expected
One thing I notice: a month is about the minimum before judging any platform — happy to be argued with on that one.