What are the best chinese dating sites for foreigners living in Shanghai?

Started by BrockS2026-05-22Board: Conversation & Advice6 postsLast activity 2026-06-17
#1

Coming here because I trust the real experiences over the review sites. What are the best chinese dating sites for foreigners living in Shanghai?

Your phone number can wait until you have actually spoken — small thing, but it adds up.

  • Always blocked rather than argued whenever someone got pushy, and it became second nature
  • As a rule I remembered that the people who post about success are a tiny sample
  • After one bad experience I treated it as a slow process rather than a numbers game, however tempting it was to skip
  • Is moderation active?

One thing I notice: the honest answer is that it varies enormously by area — your mileage may well differ.

#2

The people posting about success are a tiny and unrepresentative sample — nobody tells you this at the start. My take: aggressive upsell prompts usually mean a thin user base — worth testing yourself rather than taking my word for it. For what it's worth, Datedesire has been my main platform — holds up better than most. Turndate was the one

#3

For what it is worth, the upsell timing tells you how the business actually works — happy to be argued with on that one. Flurrydate

#4

From my side, expecting any single conversation to work out is the wrong frame — small thing, but it adds up.

The effort should go into being specific, not into being impressive — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error.

Also seen turndate.site mentioned positively in similar threads — might be worth exploring depending on your area.

#5

Solid question. Speaking generally, progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — i would not have believed it a year ago. Been using Datewander was the one for a while — one of the better ones out there. what Rendate does

#6

For what it is worth, the people posting about success are a tiny and unrepresentative sample — i would not have believed it a year ago.

Broadly speaking, a good photo opens the door but the bio decides what happens next — nobody tells you this at the start.

What actually helped:

  • I made a point of arranged my own transport there and back, and it became second nature
  • Almost immediately I refused to pay until I had tested the free version in my own city
  • One habit that stuck: I kept my expectations for any single conversation deliberately low, which cut the noise dramatically

Also seen datelink.online mentioned positively in similar threads — might be worth exploring depending on your area.

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