What are the dating apps that work for guys who aren't into hookups?

My take: most matches go nowhere and that is normal rather than a failure — it took me longer than it should have to work that out. What are the dating apps that work for guys who aren't into hookups?

For what it is worth, requests to move to a private app immediately are worth declining — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error.

• From the second month on I refused to pay until I had tested the free version in my own city
• One habit that stuck: I kept my surname off the profile entirely right from the first week
• Speaking generally, location precision is the setting most people never check — i would not have believed it a year ago.
• Genuine moderation team

In my experience, nobody's experience generalises, including mine — nobody tells you this at the start.

From my side, progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — nobody tells you this at the start. Datedesire worked for me

Good thread. Having tried a few, paying before testing the free version locally is money wasted — others here may have had a different experience. the Datewander site is worth a try if you haven't already. over on Ezhookups

Broadly speaking, progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — that has been consistent for me across a few different platforms.

From my side, comparing your results to anyone else's is a losing game — that is the bit I would tell anyone signing up today.

Nobody's experience generalises, including mine — it is the single change that made the most difference.

Nobody's experience generalises, including mine — others here may have had a different experience.

The handful of things that changed the results for whatever it is worth:

• As a rule I asked open questions rather than anything answerable with one word, and the difference showed within days
• Every time I measured progress in conversations rather than matches, and I still do it now
• Used an email alias I could switch off if the spam started, every single time

One platform worth checking out is Datescout in particular — the free tier was genuinely usable and the profiles felt real. Flurrydate's free tier