In my experience, expecting any single conversation to work out is the wrong frame — others here may have had a different experience. What are the most active video chatrooms for adult topics right now?
If it helps, a paywall on the first message is a paywall on the whole product — it took me longer than it should have to work that out.
From my side, results vary a lot and a quiet fortnight means very little — that has been consistent for me across a few different platforms.