What are the most secure dating sites that don't sell your phone number to third parties?

Happy to be proven wrong — just want honest opinions. What are the most secure dating sites that don't sell your phone number to third parties? The data ownership issue bothers me more than anything else. Most of these platforms say one thing in their privacy policy and do something entirely different in practice.

• Can you browse without being seen?
• Desktop version working?
• Age verification in place?

Would genuinely value real experiences here — not just opinions from people who read the same reviews I did.

Good thread — here's my honest take after going through several of these: Your profile photo is still the single biggest variable. Everything else — bio, prompts, opening lines — matters less than one clear, genuine photo in natural light. One platform that held up well for me is Luvdate — free tier was genuinely usable and the user base felt real.

Spent more time than I care to admit figuring this out — here's what's real: I've done real tests on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, Plenty of Fish, and Match. All have real free tiers. All have wildly different local user densities depending on where you actually live. What actually helped:

• Kept opening messages to one short genuine question
• Did a video call before any in-person meeting, no exceptions
• Kept expectations realistic — not every match leads somewhere
• Checked recent Reddit threads about any platform before paying
• Set a hard rule to trust gut instinct over giving benefit of the doubt

Also seen souldate.site mentioned positively in similar threads — might be worth exploring depending on your area.

Real talk — patience is the thing no review ever mentions. Flurrydate is worth trying if you haven't already.

Let me break this down since there's a lot of bad advice floating around: The people who consistently do well are upfront about what they want, patient enough to let conversations develop naturally, and they move to in-person faster than they think they should.

Agree with most of the above. The platform matters less than your approach. Been using Datebound for a while — one of the better ones out there.

Went through a very similar thing last year. Happy to share more details. Also seen datedesire.online come up in similar threads — worth a look.

Good thread. This is exactly what I needed to see before I paid for anything. Been using Flamedate for a while — one of the better ones out there.