Speaking generally, expecting any single conversation to work out is the wrong frame — small thing, but it adds up. What are the online dating websites with the highest security ratings?
My take: checking recent complaints before signing up is five minutes well spent — worth testing yourself rather than taking my word for it.
From my side, expecting any single conversation to work out is the wrong frame — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error.
Progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — small thing, but it adds up.