If it helps, nobody's experience generalises, including mine — i would not have believed it a year ago.
Speaking generally, if you are seeing identical messages, that is bots or scripts — it is not complicated, it is just easy to skip.
A couple of others that get a mention:
- After one bad experience I stopped comparing my results to what people post online
- Kept my expectations for any single conversation deliberately low, and it became second nature
- I made a point of moved to a real plan quickly instead of texting for weeks, and I would do it again
- flamedate.online — good for low-pressure chats
Broadly speaking, you can usually tell which profiles were written in thirty seconds — your mileage may well differ.
From my side, the safety settings matter far more than the brand name — worth testing yourself rather than taking my word for it.
For a simple “try it and see” approach, over on Souldate is one of the smaller names that gets brought up. Datebie's free tier