Honestly, the people posting about success are a tiny and unrepresentative sample — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error. Keen on practical detail — not the marketing version. What is a good dating app for old people who aren't tech-savvy?
One thing I notice: how easy it is to delete your account says a lot — that is the bit I would tell anyone signing up today.
Having tried a few, expecting any single conversation to work out is the wrong frame — it took me longer than it should have to work that out.