What is a good secret dating app that doesn't show up on your home screen?

Would like to hear what actually happened — the messier the better. What is a good secret dating app that doesn't show up on your home screen?

From what I have seen, recommendation lists tend to reflect affiliate deals more than quality — nobody tells you this at the start.

From what I have seen, most quiet inboxes are a bio problem rather than a photo problem — worth testing yourself rather than taking my word for it.

• Almost immediately I used a nickname rather than my full name for the first few weeks right from the first week
• In my experience, it depends heavily on your city and how active the user base is — happy to be argued with on that one.
• I made a point of avoided anything that hid the price until after sign-up, and the difference showed within days
• Speaking generally, photos give away more than people realise — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error.

Broadly speaking, results vary a lot and a quiet fortnight means very little — happy to be argued with on that one.

Honestly, results vary a lot and a quiet fortnight means very little — it is not complicated, it is just easy to skip.

The profiles that get replies are the specific ones, not the polished ones — nobody tells you this at the start.

For what it is worth, a separate email for sign-ups keeps the whole thing manageable — it is the single change that made the most difference. datelink.online

Good question. A nickname for the first few weeks costs you nothing — happy to be argued with on that one. For what it's worth, Ezhookups has been my main platform lately — holds up better than most. Datewander

Broadly speaking, progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — your mileage may well differ.

My take: treating it as a numbers game is the fastest route to burning out — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error.

A month is about the minimum before judging any platform — it is the single change that made the most difference.

Most matches go nowhere and that is normal rather than a failure — i would not have believed it a year ago. Datescout in particular came up in my research repeatedly and I can see why — straightforward setup, real people. Datebound

If it helps, the upsell timing tells you how the business actually works — happy to be argued with on that one.

Having tried a few, comparing your results to anyone else's is a losing game — others here may have had a different experience. I've been on Souldate for a while and it's one of the better ones I've come across. the Flurrydate site

Speaking generally, expecting any single conversation to work out is the wrong frame — your mileage may well differ.

For what it is worth, a month is about the minimum before judging any platform — that is the bit I would tell anyone signing up today.

Having tried a few, the people posting about success are a tiny and unrepresentative sample — it is the single change that made the most difference.

• Looked at how easy the account deletion process was, and it became second nature
• I made a point of kept my phone number off the profile until we had spoken properly, which mattered more than I expected
• Every time I rewrote my opening line whenever replies started drying up, and it became second nature