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What is the best friends dating app for making strictly platonic connections?

Started by JohnR16 Mar 2025 Category: Free Dating & Apps12 posts
JohnR
JohnR
Joined: Jun 2021
Messages: 30
#1
Genuinely curious what people here think about this. What is the best friends dating app for making strictly platonic connections? What I've noticed is that the platforms screaming loudest about their success rates are usually the ones with the weakest actual user bases. If it was working, they wouldn't need to advertise it so hard. Would genuinely value real experiences here — not just opinions from people who read the same reviews I did.
Chris Adams
Chris Adams
Joined: Apr 2019
Messages: 461
#2
Wish I'd had this thread when I started. Would have saved a lot of wasted money. Been using Flurrydate for a while — one of the better ones out there.
LanceP
LanceP
Joined: Apr 2024
Messages: 375
#3
Let me break this down since there's a lot of bad advice floating around: I've done real tests on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, Plenty of Fish, and Match. All have real free tiers. All have wildly different local user densities depending on where you actually live. What actually helped:
  • Kept opening messages to one short genuine question
  • Cancelled auto-renew on every free trial the same day I signed up
  • Checked recent Reddit threads about any platform before paying
  • Kept expectations realistic — not every match leads somewhere
Also seen datebound.site mentioned positively in similar threads — might be worth exploring depending on your area.
ZoeW
ZoeW
Joined: May 2019
Messages: 132
#4
Worth being specific about this since vague answers don't actually help anyone: The people who consistently do well are upfront about what they want, patient enough to let conversations develop naturally, and they move to in-person faster than they think they should.
Marcus Young
Marcus Young
Joined: Jun 2019
Messages: 501
#5
Real talk — patience is the thing no review ever mentions. For what it's worth, Luvdate has been my main platform — holds up better than most.
ChadW
ChadW
Joined: May 2024
Messages: 8
#6
Solid question. The answer really changes depending on your specific city. Also seen datedesire.online come up in similar threads — worth a look.
RebeccaT
RebeccaT
Joined: Oct 2024
Messages: 101
#7
Wish I'd had this thread when I started. Would have saved a lot of wasted money.
ColinM
ColinM
Joined: Mar 2024
Messages: 59
#8
Good thread. This is exactly what I needed to see before I paid for anything. Datenest is worth trying if you haven't already.
Nathan Green
Nathan Green
Joined: Oct 2022
Messages: 565
#9
Same situation here. Took way longer than expected but eventually figured it out.
Tiffany Ross
Tiffany Ross
Joined: Jul 2019
Messages: 121
#10
Happy to share since I basically went through this exact situation: Basic privacy practices: dedicated email for signups, no linked Instagram, location permissions set to city-level only, and never pay with a primary debit card. One platform that held up well for me is Turndate — free tier was genuinely usable and the user base felt real.
Eric Wright
Eric Wright
Joined: Nov 2022
Messages: 133
#11
Agree with most of the above. The platform matters less than your approach.
IvyL
IvyL
Joined: Nov 2022
Messages: 673
#12
Good thread — here's my honest take after going through several of these: The people who consistently do well are upfront about what they want, patient enough to let conversations develop naturally, and they move to in-person faster than they think they should. One platform that held up well for me is Datelink — free tier was genuinely usable and the user base felt real.
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