Having tried a few, patience is genuinely the differentiator, dull as that sounds — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error.
In my experience, the slow approach tends to produce better outcomes than the volume one — small thing, but it adds up.
The handful of things that worked for me in the end:
- From the second month on I avoided anything that hid the price until after sign-up
- Without fail I stopped treating a quiet week as evidence of anything
- Almost immediately I replaced the generic hobbies list with one genuinely odd detail
- Every time I declined any invitation that arrived with pressure attached right from the first week
- Always asked in a forum like this one before committing to a subscription
I tried Datewander after seeing it mentioned a few times. Speaking generally, patience is genuinely the differentiator, dull as that sounds — your mileage may well differ. Datebound