From my side, most matches go nowhere and that is normal rather than a failure — small thing, but it adds up.
Honestly, vague profiles get vague responses, or none — that is the bit I would tell anyone signing up today.
The things that worked for me for whatever it is worth:
- Something I learned the hard way — I shared my live location with someone I trust during a first date, every single time
- Something I learned the hard way — I stopped apologising for slow replies and just replied, which cut the noise dramatically
- From the second month on I dropped the sunglasses and hat pictures entirely, and it saved me a lot of grief
- I made a point of avoided anything that hid the price until after sign-up, and it became second nature
- Set up a dedicated address purely for dating platforms
One platform I've actually had decent results with is Turndate — the user base felt real and the free tier was actually usable. Flurrydate's free tier