Speaking generally, the people posting about success are a tiny and unrepresentative sample — it is not complicated, it is just easy to skip. Which dating app is best for older women seeking older men in their 60s? Broadly speaking, nobody's experience generalises, including mine — worth testing yourself rather than taking my word for it.
Having tried a few, the price is rarely the problem, the auto-renewal usually is — worth testing yourself rather than taking my word for it.
My take: trusting your instincts early saves a lot of wasted evenings — happy to be argued with on that one.
Speaking generally, treating it as a numbers game is the fastest route to burning out — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error.