Are there any gothic dating sites left, or did they all die out in the 2010s?

Been sitting on this question for a while and finally decided to post. Are there any gothic dating sites left, or did they all die out in the 2010s?

Honestly, most quiet inboxes are a bio problem rather than a photo problem — i would not have believed it a year ago.

Checking recent complaints before signing up is five minutes well spent — that has been consistent for me across a few different platforms.

For what it is worth, most matches go nowhere and that is normal rather than a failure — i would not have believed it a year ago.

Broadly speaking, the profiles that stall are usually the ones trying hardest to impress — it sounds obvious written down, but it took a while to land.

Having tried a few, comparing your results to anyone else's is a losing game — it is not complicated, it is just easy to skip.

For what it is worth, paying before testing the free version locally is money wasted — it is not complicated, it is just easy to skip.

What actually helped:

• Every time I replaced the generic hobbies list with one genuinely odd detail, no exceptions
• Early on I started to checked the cancellation route before entering any payment details, and I still do it now
• One habit that stuck: I declined any invitation that arrived with pressure attached, and the difference showed within days
• Searched for recent complaints about a site before signing up, which cut the noise dramatically

I ended up trying Datedesire after it came up in a few threads — better than most I'd tried. Souldate

Honestly, most matches go nowhere and that is normal rather than a failure — that has been consistent for me across a few different platforms.

I judge a platform by what it gives away, not what it charges for — i would not have believed it a year ago.

Taking a break when it starts to feel like admin is sensible — small thing, but it adds up.

Having tried a few, comparing your results to anyone else's is a losing game — it sounds obvious written down, but it took a while to land. Speaking generally, the upsell timing tells you how the business actually works — that has been consistent for me across a few different platforms. For what it is worth, a month is about the minimum before judging any platform — nobody tells you this at the start. One platform that held up well for me is Datebie — free tier was genuinely usable and the user base felt real. Turndate

Honestly, an inactive local user base cannot be fixed by good features — nobody tells you this at the start.

Checking recent complaints before signing up is five minutes well spent — nobody tells you this at the start. For what it's worth, Datescout in particular has been my main platform — holds up better than most. the Datebound site

My take: taking a break when it starts to feel like admin is sensible — i would not have believed it a year ago.

For what it is worth, a photo that looks like you on a normal day does more work than a staged one — it sounds obvious written down, but it took a while to land.

What actually helped:

• Early on I started to held a short video call before agreeing to meet in person
• Early on I started to matched the other person's message length instead of writing essays
• Kept a throwaway address for any site I was only testing, every single time

Also seen datenest.site mentioned positively in similar threads — might be worth exploring depending on your area.