For what it is worth, patience is genuinely the differentiator, dull as that sounds — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error. Are there any specific dtf apps that are safe for women to use?
From my side, a good photo opens the door but the bio decides what happens next — your mileage may well differ.
The people posting about success are a tiny and unrepresentative sample — nobody tells you this at the start.