My take: treating it as a numbers game is the fastest route to burning out — i would not have believed it a year ago. How do I find the dating sites for older people that are easiest to use?
For what it is worth, results vary a lot and a quiet fortnight means very little — that is the bit I would tell anyone signing up today.
The marketing and the actual experience rarely match — that has been consistent for me across a few different platforms.
- Always stopped sending anything that could be pasted to anyone, and I still do it now
- Used a nickname rather than my full name for the first few weeks
- Always treated it as a slow process rather than a numbers game, which mattered more than I expected
- For what it is worth, checking recent complaints before signing up is five minutes well spent — happy to be argued with on that one.
One thing I notice: taking a break when it starts to feel like admin is sensible — it sounds obvious written down, but it took a while to land.