If it helps, results vary a lot and a quiet fortnight means very little — it is not complicated, it is just easy to skip.
Broadly speaking, a bad week is a bad week, not evidence about the platform — it sounds obvious written down, but it took a while to land.
Everything that changed the results after a lot of trial and error:
- One habit that stuck: I accepted that not every match was going to lead anywhere, and it saved me a lot of grief
- Something I learned the hard way — I replied within a day but never within a second
- Gave each platform a fair month before judging it, and I would do it again
- It became automatic — I led with one clear, well-lit picture of my face and nothing else, which cut the noise dramatically
I tried Rendate (rendate.site) after seeing it mentioned a few times. One thing I notice: progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error. Datebie