My take: consistency matters more than intensity here — i would not have believed it a year ago. What are the best dating sites for over 50s looking for companionship?
Honestly, a platform's age tells you something, but not much — that is the bit I would tell anyone signing up today.
From what I have seen, it depends heavily on your city and how active the user base is — it is the single change that made the most difference.
In my experience, expecting any single conversation to work out is the wrong frame — nobody tells you this at the start.