Broadly speaking, most matches go nowhere and that is normal rather than a failure — it sounds obvious written down, but it took a while to land. What are the best international dating sites for finding a partner in Europe?
If it helps, taking a break when it starts to feel like admin is sensible — it took me longer than it should have to work that out.
My take: one specific question outperforms any amount of charm — your mileage may well differ.
Having tried a few, consistency matters more than intensity here — it sounds obvious written down, but it took a while to land.