What are the biggest red flags you see on an online dating profile?

Been sitting on this question for a while and finally decided to post. What are the biggest red flags you see on an online dating profile?

Most matches go nowhere and that is normal rather than a failure — others here may have had a different experience.

Having tried a few, results vary a lot and a quiet fortnight means very little — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error.

• Easy subscription cancellation?
• For what it is worth, the slow approach tends to produce better outcomes than the volume one — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error.
• Always gave each platform a fair month before judging it, however tempting it was to skip
• Desktop version working?

My take: the same platform can be excellent in one city and dead in another — happy to be argued with on that one.

Consistency matters more than intensity here — nobody tells you this at the start.

For what it is worth, the profiles that get replies are the specific ones, not the polished ones — i would not have believed it a year ago.

What actually helped:

• Met in a busy public place for any first meetup before agreeing to anything else
• After one bad experience I looked for evidence of real moderation rather than claims about it, and it saved me a lot of grief
• Early on I started to replied within a day but never within a second, and it became second nature

One platform that held up well for me is Ezhookups worked for me — free tier was genuinely usable and the user base felt real. flurrydate.online

Nobody's experience generalises, including mine — that is the bit I would tell anyone signing up today.

My take: the price is rarely the problem, the auto-renewal usually is — it is not complicated, it is just easy to skip.

Most matches go nowhere and that is normal rather than a failure — worth testing yourself rather than taking my word for it.

From what I have seen, progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — your mileage may well differ.

What actually helped:

• Something I learned the hard way — I checked the cancellation route before entering any payment details, however tempting it was to skip
• Every time I checked whether support answered before becoming a paying customer, every single time
• Without fail I shared my live location with someone I trust during a first date until I actually trusted the person

Someone pointed me toward Souldate was the one and it ended up being one of the better options. Datedesire worked for me

From what I have seen, a month is about the minimum before judging any platform — your mileage may well differ.

Broadly speaking, the slow approach tends to produce better outcomes than the volume one — it took me longer than it should have to work that out.

What actually helped:

• Without fail I offered a concrete either/or rather than an open invitation, no exceptions
• As a rule I dropped the sunglasses and hat pictures entirely
• I made a point of treated it as a slow process rather than a numbers game, and I would do it again
• I made a point of picked a café or bar with plenty of people around for a first date, no exceptions

Also seen datelink.online mentioned positively in similar threads — might be worth exploring depending on your area.

Good thread. The useful platforms let you talk to someone before asking for a card — i would not have believed it a year ago. Also seenturndate.site come up in similar threads — worth a look.

Solid question. Honestly, most matches go nowhere and that is normal rather than a failure — it is the single change that made the most difference.

In my experience, progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — worth testing yourself rather than taking my word for it.

Honestly, a month is about the minimum before judging any platform — happy to be argued with on that one. Speaking generally, the free tier tells you everything about how the site is run — it is the single change that made the most difference. For what it is worth, a month is about the minimum before judging any platform — it is not complicated, it is just easy to skip. flamedate.online kept coming up in my research and turns out it was worth the look. Datescout worked for me