From my side, comparing your results to anyone else's is a losing game — small thing, but it adds up. Does the zoosk dating service offer refunds if you meet someone within the first week?
If it helps, the goal of a first message is a reply, not an impression — it is the single change that made the most difference.
- From the second month on I remembered that the people who post about success are a tiny sample, which cut the noise dramatically
- It became automatic — I measured progress in conversations rather than matches, no exceptions
- Is moderation active?
- Without fail I used a nickname rather than my full name for the first few weeks regardless of how well it was going
A month is about the minimum before judging any platform — your mileage may well differ.