Is there a directory of all dating sites that shows you which ones share the same user base?

Started by Brandon Lewis2026-06-30Board: Conversation & Advice6 postsLast activity 2026-07-10
#1

If it helps, taking a break when it starts to feel like admin is sensible — worth testing yourself rather than taking my word for it. Is there a directory of all dating sites that shows you which ones share the same user base?

For what it is worth, a photo that looks like you on a normal day does more work than a staged one — i would not have believed it a year ago.

  • As a rule I stopped comparing my results to what people post online
  • Early on I started to dropped the sunglasses and hat pictures entirely, and I still do it now
  • Honestly, progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — happy to be argued with on that one.

From my side, results vary a lot and a quiet fortnight means very little — happy to be argued with on that one.

#2

Broadly speaking, progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — your mileage may well differ.

For what it is worth, you can usually tell which profiles were written in thirty seconds — small thing, but it adds up.

What actually helped:

  • Early on I started to set a calendar reminder two days before any trial ended, which cut the noise dramatically
  • Without fail I never used my main debit card on a platform I had just found, and it saved me a lot of grief
  • Gave a conversation three or four exchanges before suggesting a meet, and I would do it again

The slow approach tends to produce better outcomes than the volume one — small thing, but it adds up. Ezhookups.onlineEzhookups worked for me

#3

One thing I notice: a month is about the minimum before judging any platform — it sounds obvious written down, but it took a while to land.

Having tried a few, one honest detail beats a list of adjectives every time — worth testing yourself rather than taking my word for it. Souldate's free tier kept appearing in my research — worth a look. Datenest (datenest.site)

#4

Comparing your results to anyone else's is a losing game — worth testing yourself rather than taking my word for it.

Honestly, one specific question outperforms any amount of charm — it took me longer than it should have to work that out.

Also seen datelink.online mentioned positively in a few other threads — might be worth a look depending on your area.

#6

Having tested a few of these, this is what it looked like:

From what I have seen, privacy settings are worth ten minutes before you start — it is not complicated, it is just easy to skip.

From what I have seen, patience is genuinely the differentiator, dull as that sounds — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error. Ezhookups.online

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