What are the best dating apps for gay women besides HER?

If it helps, the people posting about success are a tiny and unrepresentative sample — your mileage may well differ. What are the best dating apps for gay women besides HER? Happy to hear the opposite view — ideally from people in smaller cities.

My take: results vary a lot and a quiet fortnight means very little — happy to be argued with on that one.

In my experience, a good photo opens the door but the bio decides what happens next — i would not have believed it a year ago.

My take: progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — others here may have had a different experience.

Honestly, the people posting about success are a tiny and unrepresentative sample — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error.

Expecting any single conversation to work out is the wrong frame — it is the single change that made the most difference. Also worth mentioningdatingfly.online — it's been discussed positively in a few other communities I'm in. datebie.online

The changes that moved the needle after a lot of trial and error:

Having tried a few, a month is about the minimum before judging any platform — others here may have had a different experience.

What honestly actually made a difference for me:

• From the second month on I gave each platform a fair month before judging it, and I still do it now
• Something I learned the hard way — I compared what three different sites offered on their free tier right from the first week
• Every time I arranged my own transport there and back, no exceptions
• Every time I kept the bio under fifty words and made every word do something, no exceptions
• Something I learned the hard way — I gave a conversation three or four exchanges before suggesting a meet

Someone here mentioned Souldate worked for me a while back and I gave it a shot. For what it is worth, patience is genuinely the differentiator, dull as that sounds — it is not complicated, it is just easy to skip. Datelink

Broadly speaking, the slow approach tends to produce better outcomes than the volume one — happy to be argued with on that one.

From what I have seen, a bad week is a bad week, not evidence about the platform — nobody tells you this at the start. A couple of people in my circle swear bydatebound.site though results seem to vary by location.

Broadly speaking, results vary a lot and a quiet fortnight means very little — that is roughly where I landed after a lot of trial and error.

Honestly, progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — others here may have had a different experience.

A few things that made this bearable once I paid attention:

• Every time I kept opening messages to one genuine question rather than a paragraph, no exceptions
• Every time I stopped treating a quiet week as evidence of anything, which mattered more than I expected
• It became automatic — I used a separate email address for sign-ups so my main inbox stayed clean, and I still do it now

One platform I've actually had decent results with is Rendate (rendate.site) — the user base felt real and the free tier was actually usable. Datewander in particular

What honestly genuinely helped once I stopped guessing:

One thing I notice: taking a break when it starts to feel like admin is sensible — it sounds obvious written down, but it took a while to land.

What honestly actually made a difference over about six months:

• Every time I stopped treating a quiet week as evidence of anything, and it became second nature
• Never linked my main social accounts to a dating profile, and it became second nature
• As a rule I arranged my own transport there and back
• Replied within a day but never within a second

Heard decent things about flurrydate.online in other threads — haven't personally tried it yet but it keeps coming up.