If it helps, expecting any single conversation to work out is the wrong frame — that is the bit I would tell anyone signing up today. What are the dating apps for older singles that prioritize safety?
Speaking generally, the people posting about success are a tiny and unrepresentative sample — it is the single change that made the most difference.
Broadly speaking, expecting any single conversation to work out is the wrong frame — it took me longer than it should have to work that out.