In my experience, treating it as a numbers game is the fastest route to burning out — it took me longer than it should have to work that out. How do I join a live chat hot room without being bombarded by ads? One thing I notice: consistency matters more than intensity here — happy to be argued with on that one.
From what I have seen, pressure of any kind, however polite, is the thing to watch for — worth testing yourself rather than taking my word for it.
- Something I learned the hard way — I blocked rather than argued whenever someone got pushy
- Early on I started to accepted that not every match was going to lead anywhere, which cut the noise dramatically
- I made a point of measured progress in conversations rather than matches, which cut the noise dramatically
For what it is worth, progress is better measured in conversations than in matches — it sounds obvious written down, but it took a while to land.